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Post by Annie on Mar 4, 2007 14:13:35 GMT -5
I sure did. They were terrible bullies. I was talking to some other girls who are going through this now or have in the past. Whether it was a long time ago or now, it's never a good experience. But having had it happen to me, I understand how when it's happening to you now, it's the worst because you have to live with it every day and it makes you miserable. I also know that nothing really seems to work with them. You can't ignore them, you can't change their minds or 'redeem' them, and you can't make them feel bad and stop. Even turning them into the teacher either doesn't stop them, or makes them madder. The main thing to realize is that those kinds of people have secretly low self esteem themselves and they have to get their kicks by making other people feel bad. They end up victimizing the nicest and most honest kind of people because they know they can get to them and hurt them. Does anyone else have a story or any advice on this, or just want to talk? I'll tell my stories and don't be afraid to tell yours. We can have a good discussion.
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Post by PadmeSkywalker on Mar 4, 2007 16:47:10 GMT -5
my daughter 13, had some girls even write a burn book..... they were suspended, they are getting tougher and tougher in the schools so this type of crap doesn't keep happening.
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Post by Annie on Mar 4, 2007 16:55:37 GMT -5
What is a burn book? Is this something new girls do to trash a girl by writing bad stuff about her?
She's 13, that's the worst age for that kind of thing, it was for me. I hope her problems will end soon. In my case, the more they got in trouble for messing with me, the more they wanted to get 'revenge' on me, though if they'd never done it they wouldn't have to worry!
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Post by PadmeSkywalker on Mar 4, 2007 16:57:26 GMT -5
yes it was is in that movie mean girls too..... they write terrible, unture things about every girl and circulate it around the school......
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Post by Annie on Mar 4, 2007 17:03:04 GMT -5
Oh man that's terrible! Good luck to her and you. Let us know how it goes. ((HUGS))
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Post by padme52 on Mar 5, 2007 6:30:13 GMT -5
This is terrible, and what is really sad is as grown ups some of these people go on and become supervisors and managers. They then their bullying which goes unchecked in many cases.
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Post by arie on Mar 5, 2007 16:39:00 GMT -5
I had this kind of trouble in middle school, but now I consider myself very fortunate to go to a high school where everyone seems to be geniunely nice to me. The school I attend is vastly different from any other I have encountered, in that I don't think I have ever found a person there that directly meant for a comment to hurt someone. Physical fights are such a rarity, and I'm still in awe about it, so no, I'm not trying to brag about my school... I'm sort of in this surrealistic world!  My middle school had fights, both verbal and physical constantly. Perhaps maturity is slightly higher in high school, yes, but I'd like to think I chose the right school as well. I've never had an experience with a burn book, but I have heard people tell me about theirs. I've seen people vandalizing others' items, such as writing curse words and insults on their lockers in permanent marker... it is quite appalling, and it used to mean so much back then, I remember people being crushed about such events. It is ridiculous now that I look back on it. Anyway, I'm quite comfortable where I am, for I haven't had a bad experience with classmates, or schoolmates for that matter YET. And it has been over a year and a half. I hope this trend continues, personally. |
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Post by Astrid on Mar 9, 2007 11:36:37 GMT -5
I agree that middle school is the worst for stuff like that. I don't like mean girls who get their pleasure from your pain.
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Post by padme52 on Mar 10, 2007 14:00:57 GMT -5
You are right middle school is the worst . Its awful. I can remember experiencing this myself. It was a long time ago. But I still remember.
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Post by Saphira on Mar 16, 2007 2:01:39 GMT -5
I'm really sorry to all those who have faced mean cruel girls! *hugs all* I have to. It's a terrible thing to have to go through. These girls will say such untrue things, but even if untrue and you know it, it still hurts. Whoever said sticks and stones may brake my bones but words will never hurt me was wrong. Sometimes words can hurt more then injuries. (Not true in all cases, but in some)
I used to be picked on a lot to. More in Elementary school then High School. In High School I find people nicer, but still, there are awful ones there to.
I think it's very important for kids to like school, but it's hard to do that if your being picked on. I notice rude kids like this tend to have many of their own problems, which they take out on others to make themselves feel better about theirselves. Hard as it may be sometimes try to remember and say to yourself, "I know what their saying isn't true. There saying what they are themselves, I know I'm nothing like they say." Easier said then done, but try to think in a way.
It bothers me a lot. I hate bullies. I wish they realised that causing pain and making people feel bad is not a joke. Some people have no conscience.
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Post by samantha on Mar 18, 2007 8:39:09 GMT -5
I'm quite agreeing with you on that one, Saphira. I've been there, too, and nothing's hurting more than being called names.
Actually, I got an hell of a time with that at school, mainly as a teenager, for I've not been picked only by a few people, but by my whole class! It's been very hard to be confronted to such tough Souls, for that's what these are, unfortunately. If they're rude with you, towards each other they're caring about, but don't get thinking they would care about your Fate: I learnt the hard way than all they cared for was to get me in trouble at all costs, and didn't give a damn of how I was feeling inside. Each time I tried to share something, I got the same nasty answer: "I/We don't care about your life!" That's how I saw how selfish mankind could be, when all one's looking for is a bit of comfort, tenderness and mainly moral support, which is very important, from my point of view.
Luckily, I changed school the following year, stating than the hardship was over for me. But for a while, I remained terribly distrustful towards others, I wasn't willing to trust manking again, especially after that.
Vey good point, Saphira. Yet, I've noticed lately than many authors are relating such facts into their books, with more or less accuracy. The most obvious case of a girl picking up on another into the Harry Potter series, is the one of Pansy Parkinson picking up on Hermione. It's clearly seen into the books how much she's enjoying seeing suffer her rival, mainly right under Draco's eyes. At some point that Harry has to cut short a conversation referring to Hermione in GOF with Ron, when he sees than she's listening, after that Hermione received a mail filled with pus which burnt her hands. Easy to guess who was the sender, isn't it?
Yet, if you've read my blog lately, you'll see that I've seen the real Pansy Parkinson across my writing, for in fact she turns out to be someone very human also, for indeed her bulling acts were reflecting her need to feel better about herself. And to conclude, she's turns out to be another most endearing character to me, when I got my intuition proven right about WHY she has been behaving like that...
Kisses,
Sam.
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Post by sonotyourmom on Mar 18, 2007 15:28:08 GMT -5
my school has tons of them they hate me and i hate them my school like 95% of school are rich bitches or sluts or both my town is very rich but im not i cant wait till i get out of this town im in 9th grade 3 more years of this crappy town  |
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Post by arie on Mar 18, 2007 15:56:35 GMT -5
Hey, sonot and Sam you two have the same sig, eh? |
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Post by samantha on Mar 19, 2007 4:56:10 GMT -5
yesterday, yes, but not today!  Kisses, Sam. |
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Post by DarthAnakin on Mar 19, 2007 20:33:22 GMT -5
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